A Message of Advice to My African Brothers and Sisters Living in the West

After numerous conversations with fellow Africans living in Western countries, it has become clear that many are silently struggling with stress, depression, and emotional distress. In many cases, this is not caused by the system alone, but by challenges faced in the workplace—often from colleagues and environments that can be unwelcoming or discriminatory.

Here is my heartfelt advice:

1. Stay Professional and Consistent
   Always do your job diligently. Arrive on time, maintain proper records, and keep documentation of any important issues that arise at work.
2. Join and Engage with Your Labour Union
   Register with a labour union and make sure your contributions are up to date. Labour unions can support and protect your rights in case of any mistreatment.
3. Handle Conflict Constructively
   Confront issues when necessary, but always do so respectfully and constructively. Speak up when needed—do not wait too long or let things pile up. Silence can be mistaken for weakness.
4. Cultural Differences Matter
   Understand that your colleagues may have been raised differently than you. Do not assume they share your values or perspective. Stay calm and composed even when you feel upset—never react out of anger.
5. Write Everything Down
   Keep personal records of events and interactions at work. If you’re not writing things down, know that others might be documenting you. Protect yourself with facts.
6. Recognize the Tactics
   Be aware that some systems may use psychological pressure, isolation, or manipulation to destabilize you. If you’re not mentally strong, these tactics can lead to depression, high blood pressure, and other health complications.
7. Protect and Empower Your Children
   The same people you work with are also parents of the children your children may encounter. If you’re facing mobbing or exclusion at work, it’s possible your children may face the same at school. Teach your children to be mentally strong, to stand up for themselves, and never to feel inferior.
8. Stand Your Ground
   If you are being unfairly treated, stand your ground with dignity. Don’t become a silent victim. Let your children know that responding confidently to bullying is not weakness, but strength. Some people only understand firmness.

Remember: You were not born to be oppressed or made to feel inferior. Walk with confidence, protect your mental health, and support one another. Unity, awareness, and strength of mind are your greatest tools.

With respect and solidarity,
Your Brother

Major